It's all kicking off in the villa...
I don’t condemn slut shaming. In fact, I fucking hate it. Anyone who knows me will know that I automatically see red whenever a woman is branded a slut, hoe, slag or whore. So Laura’s choice of insult in last night’s Love Island disappointed me. Particularly because I was rooting for her, and remain to be super proud that she didn’t react as I would have in such a situation, and lost my shit with Megan.
Me, at the end of last night's episode
On the subject of slut shaming, though, remember when Megan kicked off because her partner had suggested she’d slept with 37 people? 37??????? Who gives a shit? She then responded to Laura’s comments claiming that she had slept with more people than her, and so did not warrant the slur she was dealt. She’s right – it’s 2018 and high time we stopped degrading women for the decisions they make about their body and sex lives. Let us fucking live.
There is no such thing as a slut. ‘Slut’ is a made up word, dating back to the 1300’s to describe a working class woman. It is a word used to shame, silence and attack women, and, in such a modern age of society, it is unhealthy to obsess over something from the past. And not just the past – ancient fucking history. People are not defined by the amount of sex they do or do not have. Whether your number is closer to 10 or 1,000, you remain the same person and calling someone out on their sexual history is categorically wrong. There is a huge double standard surrounding this. The age old tale of a man being pat on the back for his high number of conquests, whilst women boasting the same number are scorned. Though this is undeniably unfair, slut-shaming is a real thing that unfortunately happens all too often.
My face between 09:00am - 10:20pm last night
So, yeah, we’ve got to have some serious words with the Love Islanders when the show is over and assure them that calling each other slags and whores is never the way to behave. Or, for now, you can join me in writing shouty messages on their Instagram pictures with the hashtag #EndSlutShaming. Everyone needs to make more of a conscious effort to stop using these words – even if you think it’s a joke and you’re under the impression that you’re funny. It’s not OK. Take this as an official warning that if you ever utter the words in my presence, don’t be surprised to find yourself wearing my gin or at the receiving end of a debate that you just don’t want to enter into.
100% absolutely definitely not my type on paper
Living in such close proximity to a group of strangers must test you to your very limits – I get that. But behaving in the way’s that some of them do is unforgivable. Yes, it is a game show. Yes, people play games. But girls who don’t have each other’s backs are my biggest ever pet peeve. I have a theory. For centuries, women have been tirelessly and mercilessly digging each other out. Consider the fact that after playing audience to it for so many years, perhaps our male counterparts deemed it acceptable to discriminate and criticize women because those who are meant to be our 'sisters' and support team started doing it first? We should be using our greatest tools to spread the word and grow our International Girl Gang.
It is empowering to empower another person. Aside from (maybe) an orgasm, there is no feeling more satisfying. When women support each other, incredible things happen. And, as women, we are fighting a pretty tough battle; against history, against sexism, against racism, against homophobia, against the patriarchy and against ourselves. We NEED the support! We NEED to work together as one giant, unstoppable force to be reckoned with.
Get in the Girl Gang, or get in the bin, bitch.